As those of you who are familiar with lovingkindness meditation already know, it is a practice that provides us with significant and profound benefits. It can bring greater awareness of our true nature, catapulting us out of what Tara Brach calls the ”Trance of Unworthiness” and into the light of our true identities. Lovingkindness practice
With psychotherapy, therapist and patient form a trusting alliance in which they can collaborate to work through problems and determine healthier directions. In therapy, we deal with thoughts, attitudes, dreams, relationships, and feelings. After having worked within a strictly psychotherapeutic model for over 25 years, I began to find ways of using my growing interest
Learning to Listen with More Flexibility James N Kraut, Psy.D. When we were growing up, chances are we were told and shown that we were wrong a lot. As soon as we began to move around by ourselves, our human/primate DNA sent us on an endless quest to apprehend the world outside of us, to
From the time your children are born, your job is to get them to not need you to do your job. The human journey begins with complete dependency and as parents, we attempt, gradually, to give our kids the skills to be able to live autonomously. What’s sad about it is that there are two
Even if you never remember your dreams, you’re surely having them every night. Everyone dreams. The meaning of dreams, however, is not so nailed down as the evidence of their universal existence. There are a number of widely varying theories regarding the meaning of dreaming. One theory is that dreams are simply random neuronal firings
Children whose behavior deteriorates have no trouble getting our attention. Unfortunately, however, kids can respond to stress, trauma and pain by either externalizing or internalizing it. They can either take their trouble out into the world or pull it deep inside themselves. If your child’s difficulty, for example, coping your divorce has resulted in their
“Tough love” is a common phrase and it generally refers to the act of allowing those close to us – usually, and for our purposes here, our children – to experience something difficult for what we see as “their own good.” Tough love requires parents to have a strong enough sense of their own self-esteem
These days, unfortunately, the term “mindfulness” has fully acquired buzzword status. It has achieved great commercial value and is currently being used to sell a lot of things – therapy, books, calendars, videos, apps, retreats and countless types of meditation. If you’ve been reading my blogs over the last few years, you’ve seen it there
Depending on when I wrote this article, a specific brutal killing would be in your mind. If I’d done it in 2017, it would probably recall the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School shooting. But now as I write, the country is responding to the horrific murder of 11 Jews in a deeply peaceful and spiritual
Starting with being dumped out of the birth canal, we immediately begin dealing with an ongoing and completely unreliable system of getting our needs met, despite our mothers’ – and later, fathers’ best intentions. Consequently, we learn before long that to live here, we need to protect ourselves from all the things in the outer
My passion is to help guide you if you have chosen to look profoundly into the questions of your life. My goal is to help you get to the point where your existence on this wonderful planet has become a richer, deeper, and more meaningful process. Every story is unique and I would love to learn about yours.
