LETTING IT BE

JAMES N KRAUT, PSY.D. Let’s start with a little exercise: Take a blank piece of 8 ½ x 11 paper and sit down in a comfortable chair or on a cushion. Imagine that everything that you see, feel or otherwise experience in life as difficult, frightening, stressful or otherwise unpleasant is represented in that piece of paper. The paper symbolically …

Learning to Listen with More Flexibility

THE PROBLEM WITH HAVING TO BE RIGHT

Learning to Listen with More Flexibility James N Kraut, Psy.D. When we were growing up, chances are we were told and shown that we were wrong a lot. As soon as we began to move around by ourselves, our human/primate DNA sent us on an endless quest to apprehend the world outside of us, to increasingly understand and find our …

LETTING GO OF YOUR KIDS James N Kraut, Psy.D.

LETTING GO OF YOUR KIDS

LETTING GO OF YOUR KIDS James N Kraut, Psy.D.  From the time your children are born, your job is to get them to not need you to do your job. The human journey begins with complete dependency and as parents, we attempt, gradually, to give our kids the skills to be able to live autonomously. What’s sad about it is …

THOUGHTS ON DREAMS

THOUGHTS ON DREAMS | JAMES N KRAUT, PSY.D.

THOUGHTS ON DREAMS JAMES N KRAUT, PSY.D. Even if you never remember your dreams, you’re surely having them every night. Everyone dreams. The meaning of dreams, however, is not so nailed down as the evidence of their universal existence. There are a number of widely varying theories regarding the meaning of dreaming. One theory is that dreams are simply random …

QUIET TROUBLE IS EASIER TO MISS

QUIET TROUBLE IS EASIER TO MISS James N Kraut, Psy.D. Children whose behavior deteriorates have no trouble getting our attention. Unfortunately, however, kids can respond to stress, trauma and pain by either externalizing or internalizing it. They can either take their trouble out into the world or pull it deep inside themselves. If your child’s difficulty, for example, coping your …

KINDNESS, FEAR AND MEDITATION James N Kraut, Psy.D.

KINDNESS, FEAR AND MEDITATION

KINDNESS, FEAR AND MEDITATION James N Kraut, Psy.D. Fear and kindness push each other out of the picture. Looking at the world today, yourself included, you are continually accosted by countless signs of extreme global turbulence. You are told numerous times, day after day, by the news media, who are in business to hook your emotions into the ongoing story, …

Tough Love

TOUGH LOVE: WHY IT’S IMPORTANT James N Kraut, Psy.D. “Tough love” is a common phrase and it generally refers to the act of allowing those close to us – usually, and for our purposes here, our children – to experience something difficult for what we see as “their own good.” Tough love requires parents to have a strong enough sense …

THE SOURCES OF HATING AND VIOLENCE

THE SOURCES OF HATING AND VIOLENCE James N Kraut, Psy.D., LLC When I was very young – maybe 4 – I was periodically picked on by a slightly older kid who lived down the street. I can still remember my mother’s response when I tearfully approached her with my bullying problem. “Mean people are unhappy people,” she said. So, at …

MSD STRONG: ONE YEAR LATER

MSD STRONG: ONE YEAR LATER James N Kraut, Psy.D. After the unspeakable horror of the Valentine’s Day 2018 attack at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, a powerful out crying from Douglas students and their parents sent the country a message: “The time for change is now!” Those in agreement with the message resonated deeply with the strong, …