Let’s Talk About Anxiety

WHAT CAUSES ANXIETY AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT Without anxiety, the most frequently occurring psychological problem, you wouldn’t be here. Deprived of that state of arousal called “fight or flight,” your ancestors would have fallen victim to everything man eating, including other hungry humans or humanoids, lacking the wherewithal to exert themselves at critical moments. The alternative, in …

RESOLUTION AND COMPASSION

I’m aware of the fact that a lot of changes are being proposed by people who want to do better next year than they did in 2018. I think that’s great; we should always try to make things better, to do the very best we can. In fact, we often look at ourselves with a critical eye and then resolve …

POLITICAL CONFLICT, CORTISOL AND YOUR HEALTH

In 1999, I discovered that I had a common heart arrhythmia called atrial fibrillation. If you have atrial fibrillation – or “a fib” – the upper chamber of your heart loses its regular rhythm and shutters and flutters without doing much of anything good. It can happen all the time, frequently or on occasion. I was lucky to have it …

A HOUSE DIVIDED: BEYOND PARTISANSHIP

You are not happy about what’s going on in government, I’ll bet. Either you love the president and are infuriated by all the negative fake news that denigrates him or you despise him and are going crazy with all the negative fake news about all the good he’s doing. Fake news is a new construct to describe our take on …

AN INTRODUCTION TO RESISTANCE AND PROJECTION IN THERAPY

Psychotherapy, when working correctly, acts as a door opening to the possibility of change. We approach it because we are wanting to make at least something in our lives different. Or maybe someone close to us has expressed the desire/need for us to change. For whatever reason, the appeal of transforming our lives in some way drives us toward initiating …

HOW MINDFULNESS MEDITATION WILL HELP YOU

As we move further into the 21st Century, we are seeing a significant rise in the practice of meditation – particularly forms of mindfulness – not just in the United States, but in cultures around the world. For the last hundred years, there has been a slow, steady increase in the number of people committing time to developing better control …

PUSHING AGAINST DEPRESSION

When you come down with the flu, chances are you respond to the illness with a series of behaviors designed to get you well again. You most likely spend much more time in bed; you get plenty of rest; you may have your cocktail of vitamins and over-the-counter medications that help you get your health back. You push against the …

FINDING CALM IN TURBULENCE

Regardless of your personal point of view, you know that our country is in very new place. When you think back over your life, it’s startling to realize how dramatically different the world is now from the way it was when you first became an adult. Let’s take a nice round number: 20 years. How much have things changed in …

NEGATIVE REINFORCEMENT

I tend to think psychoanalytically as a psychologist, which means I’m interested in how early relationships, dreams and the unconscious all influence our everyday lives. Behavioral therapies, and their offshoot, cognitive behavioral therapy, come from a model rooted in the principles of learning theory, which explain how what we experience shapes who we are and how we behave. Having worked …